Mama, what if nobody “likes” me?

Human nature being what it is, everybody wants to be liked even if they put on a tough front and say they don’t care. So when I posted something on one of my blogs and few “likes” came up I immediately felt disappointed, it was an emotional response. I think that’s what social networking sites feed on and ultimately many, many users are sucked in. The reasons for each are very different. The blogger is rewarded with an increased feeling of self worth, after all so many people “like” them. For the companies behind the host sites though the rewards are purely financial. For the more responsible host sites more bloggers and viewers means more advertising revenue and for dodgy sites at best they simply sell people’s information.

What happened though when I didn’t get the “likes” I hoped for?  I could have  encouraged more “likes” by the “I’ll scratch your back if you’ll scratch mine” method, this is how so many Facebook users end up with hundreds of “friends” they know absolutely nothing about. I could have written on topics I knew interested  heaps of people eg “Pets”.  I could have responded to a forum topic and made sure my post was right near the top of the list so more people were likely to look at it. One thing I wouldn’t do is become active on a social networking site but I didn’t do any of those things, I  just took  off the “Likes” widget, and am happy to write what I want.

You can call me a silly goat if you want, just write it in the Comments box!


Social Media or Social Substitute?

Today as part of the Zero to Hero blogging challenge we’ve been asked to link blogs to one or more of these sites. Facebook, Twitter, Tumblr, Path etc but I won’t do it. I’m not a Luddite, I have a Facebook account (but I access it only when my family tell me they have posted a photo for me to look at) and did have a Twitter account 5 years ago.

I don’t like either. I don’t think Facebook encourages good communication, instead I think people usually substitute numerous trivial texts for a meaningful conversation. While people are logging into Facebook they are not actually out doing anything likely to promote real dialogue. For the many people who become hooked on Facebook the only topic they can possibly discuss is what’s been said on Facebook so it goes around in a never ending loop. I have seen the viciousness and harm that can result amongst teenage girls.

Anyone who has been out eating in public recently will have seen groups of people ostensibly “socialising” but how many heads are down looking at a screen rather than at the other faces? Maybe they are actually updating their Facebook page telling all their “friends” they are out to dinner when really they would be just as social sitting at home cuddling their computer, or tablet, or phone!

So, big deal, this has nothing to do with linking my blog. Well yes, to me it does. I’m not looking for heaps of traffic to my blog, I’d be happy to have a few genuine readers who think about my posts. If I’m lucky I’ll get some comments that will make me think some more too.